Relations - Love - Wedding

And Mental Health

        "I want to get married ...... .I am happy !!!!!!!!! I found my other half! This is the man/woman  I want to marry ... «σαν θέλει η νύφη και ο γαμπρός τύφλα να χει ο πεθερός» it is said usually in Greece. We love each other and get married we have fun together. Mmmm super!    Fishy!   .............. My lottery happened? What a man !! What  a woman !!!. «You are my Life ...... ..you are  my other half ...! ... I love to lose myself in his/her eyes…»

Love ............... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

     When  meets us? When the great love comes in our life?

Why comes to  everyone in a different way? What is love; What is Marriage?

Relationships some hold 20 years of love, others dissolve everything in 20 years ... Why?

             Love, Love, passion in a relationship, marriage is all feelings that need thousands of pages to develop one's views and did not reach an eternity to solve a mystery man - woman so simple is all about. We will solve it in an article? Is it Possible?  Of course not will not cover but we will see some simple reflections around these serious funds in the lives of people whose deep experience and deep responsible spirit brings to light may sound silly, but the philosophy of love leads to the solution, some prefer to live the relationship and regret for mistakes along the way, others again philosophizing only timidly, there is a small class of people which has combined the philosophical reflection on love in the true quest in life in terms of love and discoveries have come to light solving all the problems of relations and demonstrate that 90% of couples have married because they  had to  make their families, and experienced love in later life and the children were not the reason now that could keep them in this relationship.

              We all know what is love, once  knocked on the door and knew, now we know  what feelings caused us !!! Why do we fall in love though? The human? We love the person? What?

            We fall in love………… …….. as an idea so abstract? blurs the mind and idealize the man / woman who happened to  stimulate some unusual feelings for us?

             I'm in love !!! Hormones and libido in the "Full " how soared my hormones? The answer?   It was strongest erotic hit during the first love, what we call First Love was stronger. It happens to all people this first love is stronger than those who follow in life for the very reason that happens in several formative years that we all look beautiful and perfect. We have no experienced disappointments, we have not been hit by plagues and all our commonly seen "Paradise."

        Idealize the object of our desire, we admire, we want the "we love" as usually call it, is so strong that escapes the control of our mind is more powerful than ourselves, and we in this erotic feeling of giving the depth in " our "belonging to God, in short deify him, is the meaning of our life !!! We gave God's place in our hearts and fell in love with our thinking. Love is Platonic, if response will have positive results. But what if you accidentally do not control our emotions and fell in love with on our own a person Platonic tension? Then we lose "our" the deepest point of ourselves collapses, the gap is huge can last from 3-7 years in some not easily make relationships to overcome heartbreak. Surely we only know ourselves and not another. I know myself how to treat it but do not know each other. A tip from a scientific background, is not ever put someone so deeply in our hearts to guard against the deep gap, it is first of all to love ourselves and others equal to this never  more than we love ourselves.

        This may sound selfish to love yourself but if you love him /her   more than yourself will get hurt because no man is perfect in the way of behavior towards the opposite sex and we all do, we may unwittingly and sometimes, moves that hurt our relationship.

       Relationships  sometimes arrive at the end point, love was a bubble a balloon deflated, unwilling lovers no longer be together, the idealization of the person brought disappointment. Divided and then what remains is a gap for a major effort to meet needs as to give me love myself I love  myself even if the other is no longer in love with me. So I can continue my life to fight to win precious time and maybe meet somewhere below something more suitable and more fitting according to my personal “data”, a more suitable love that will give me what I really want to ...... "TRUTH '. How to find something real in a society where the majority of people are  hypocrites in relationships just to be able to be in a relationship and not feel completely alone. Even when you are in an inappropriate relationship then only  you will feel alone  because We will not meet the original expectations we thought through the sea of ​​erotic emotions confuse the brain and one can not think clearly and logically when the mind is clouded by emotions and eroticism They need all their time to balance.

Author

Xaroula Koutsoruoumba

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